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OBJECTIVE: To investigate the rationale and consequences associated with a parent's decision to discuss death with a child with incurable cancer. STUDY DESIGN: We present data from a larger retrospective study involving bereaved parents of a child who died of cancer. Parents were asked whether they had discussed the impending death with their child, whether they reflected on this discussion positively, their reasons for not discussing death with their child, and the manner in which the conversation regarding death occurred. The data were analyzed qualitatively using a framework approach. RESULTS: Of the 86 parents of 56 children who answered the questions regarding discussing death with their child, 55 parents of 35 children did not discuss the impending death with their child. The following themes were identified: the parents' inability to discuss the impending death; the parents' desire to protect their child; views regarding talking with children; parents' views of child characteristics; the child's unwillingness to discuss the subject; lack of opportunity to talk; and the child's disability. The parents who did discuss death with their child generally used symbolic and/or religious narratives, or they had brief, direct conversations regarding death. The majority of parents felt positive regarding their decision about whether to talk with their child about his/her impending death. CONCLUSION: Most parents in this study cited several reasons for not discussing death with their child. Our findings highlight the sensitive and complex issues surrounding these conversations, indicating that there may be a role for clinicians in supporting parents.
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Attitude to Death , Bereavement , Neoplasms/psychology , Parent-Child Relations , Sick Role , Terminal Care/psychology , Truth Disclosure/ethics , Adolescent , Adult , Child , Child, Preschool , Female , Humans , Infant , Male , Middle Aged , Neoplasms/therapy , Professional-Family Relations , Retrospective Studies , Young AdultABSTRACT
OBJECTIVE: To develop and validate a Distress Thermometer for Parents (DT-P) for chronically ill children and to determine a cutoff score for clinical distress. STUDY DESIGN: Parents of a chronically ill child (0-18 years) were recruited via announcements or were actively approached at the outpatient clinics of the Emma Children's Hospital/Academic Medical Center and Vrije Universiteit Medical Center. We modeled the development of the DT-P on the Distress Thermometer used in oncology medical care. The DT-P consists of a thermometer score from 0 (no distress) to 10 (extreme distress) and a problem list (practical, social, emotional, physical, cognitive, and parenting domains). The DT-P was validated with the Hospital Anxiety and Depression Scale (HADS) and the Parenting Stress Index. RESULTS: The mean thermometer score of the 706 participating parents was 3.7 (SD 3.0). The thermometer score and the scores in the practical, emotional, physical, and cognitive problem domains were strongly related to anxiety, depression, and the total score of the HADS (0.55 ≤ r ≤ 0.72). The thermometer score and all problem domain scores were moderately-to-strongly related to the Parenting Stress Index (0.38 ≤ r ≤ 0.63). A cutoff-score of 4 correctly identified 86% of "clinical HADS cases" (sensitivity) and 67% of "nonclinical HADS cases" (specificity). CONCLUSIONS: We developed the DT-P and examined its diagnostic utility in a large sample. The DT-P appeared to be a valid and useful short screening-tool for identifying parental distress.