Men don't cry: The supporting role as necessary for women's well-being after termination of pregnancy.

OBJECTIVES: The present study investigated similarities and differences of grief between men and women as part of the parental couple 1 year after termination of pregnancy (TOP) following a diagnosis of fetal anomaly. METHODS: We applied a method triangulation approach. We assessed several aspects of perinatal grief, depressive symptoms, posttraumatic stress, and anxiety as well as health-related quality of life. In addition, we conducted qualitative interviews with the men to explore the fathers' roles in the partnership during pregnancy, the time of the diagnosis, TOP, and afterwards. RESULTS: Women showed a more elevated grief response compared with men. Qualitative data revealed that men in our sample were mainly concerned with their partners' well-being and concentrated on supporting their partners rather than on their own emotions. In addition, the supportive role of the male partner plays a central role in the well-being of women and the man's coping with the situation. CONCLUSION: In clinical work, but also when developing new questionnaires, the specific role of the male partners needs to be considered more thoroughly. Particular attention should be paid to identify the men who find it difficult to assume the supporting role.

Termination of pregnancy for fetal malformation: A traumatic event? A qualitative analysis of women's perception.

Objective: To investigate women's experience of termination of pregnancy (TOP) for severe fetal malformation.We focus on women's individual perception of psychological counselling on decision making, experiencing the birth process, seeing and holding the baby as well as emotional processing. Methods: An explorative study was conducted with 42 women (the age range was between 21 and 45 years [mean 36.17; SD±6.66]) on average twelve months after TOP using semi-structured qualitative interviews. All women received psychological counselling before, during and after the time of TOP (mean 5.2; range 2-11), at the initial counselling session all partners were present. Data were analysed by means of qualitative content analysis by Mayring; the main research question focused on women's perception of psychological counselling on experiencing TOP and coping with this incisive life event. Results: After receiving psychological counselling most of the women felt sufficiently prepared to make a decision, to experience the birth process and to bid farewell to their child. Seeing and holding the baby were perceived as helpful for emotional processing. At the time of the interview, despite the emotional distress,most women reported having positivememories and felt they had coped with the loss. Conclusions: Long-term psychological care from the time of diagnosis through TOP and follow up impacts positively on experiencing TOP, saying farewell to the child and integrating the loss into life. Further studies to detect women at risk for prolonged mourning-reactions are needed.