Forming our grief rhythm: The relational window of tolerance for bereaved parents.

The shared loss of a child can present challenges to couple relationships as both partners attempt to cope with their own grief and their partner's grief. In this longitudinal qualitative study, five bereaved parent couples participated in 13 total interviews, revealing coregulatory interactions surrounding their shared loss. Using thematic coding and grounded theory analysis, their reflections were organized into three interrelated process themes: regulating self, regulating other, and forming our grief rhythm. This article explores the complexity of the last theme "forming our grief rhythm" in-depth, and a new theoretical orientation, the relational window of tolerance, is introduced to examine how couples coregulate both fragile and stable states within their shared grief. The reflections of bereaved parents indicated that prolonged "dual fragile states" and prolonged "imbalanced states" may hinder relationship quality. In order to regain relationship stability, couples learned to trade off supporting one another and/or to resonate with one another in their shared pain. Implications for future research and clinical practice are discussed, focusing especially on how to integrate individual and relational needs into grief therapy frameworks.

Meaning Co-Construction: Facilitating Shared Family Meaning-Making in Bereavement.

Meaning-oriented approaches to grief therapy have made substantial contributions by defining the internal processes of meaning-making and, more recently, clinical scholars have introduced relational approaches as means for continuing bonds with the deceased and increasing social support for the bereaved. However, the complicated interactive processes of interpersonal meaning-making pose added challenges as family members attempt to coregulate each other's grief experiences. While systemic therapists have consistently emphasized the essential role of familial relationships in fostering resilience through interpersonally constructed meaning, there remains a need for clarity in terms of the specific processes by which this occurs. The Meaning Reconstruction Model and Emotionally Focused Therapy provide process-oriented therapeutic strategies for facilitating interpersonal interactions that foster deep relational connection and self-identity transformation. In this article, we explore how these models can be integrated and applied to the dynamic needs of families who are adjusting to loss. Future clinical and research directions are also discussed.

Los enfoques de la terapia de duelo orientados al significado han hecho aportes significativos mediante la definición de los procesos internos de la creación de significado y, más recientemente, los investigadores clínicos han incorporado enfoques relacionales como medio para continuar los vínculos con el fallecido y aumentar el apoyo social para el doliente. Sin embargo, los complicados procesos interactivos de la creación de significado interpersonal plantean nuevos desafíos mientras los familiares intentan corregular las experiencias de duelo de cada uno. Si bien los terapeutas sistémicos han enfatizado uniformemente el papel fundamental que desempeñan las relaciones familiares a la hora de fomentar la resiliencia mediante un significado construido interpersonalmente, queda la necesidad de aclarar los procesos específicos por los cuales esto ocurre. El modelo de reconstrucción de significado y la terapia centrada en las emociones ofrecen estrategias terapéuticas orientadas al proceso para facilitar interacciones interpersonales que fomentan una conexión relacional profunda y la transformación de la identidad propia. En este artículo, analizamos cómo estos modelos pueden integrarse y aplicarse a las necesidades dinámicas de las familias que se están adaptando a una pérdida. También se comentan las direcciones clínicas y científicas futuras.

Evaluating the relationship between family resilience and grief-related symptoms: A preliminary analysis.

Walsh's Family Resilience Framework offers clinicians a comprehensive theoretical approach for supporting bereaved families. In this study, a total of 139 bereaved adults who lost a family member in the last 5 years were surveyed about their family's resilience processes, their current outlook on life, and their current grief-related symptoms. The data from this sample were analyzed using confirmatory factor analysis and structural regression. Family resilience processes were negatively related to grief symptoms; however, this relationship was mediated by personal meaning. The results suggest that Walsh's Family Resilience Framework may be an appropriate conceptual tool to assess family resilience in bereavement practice.