The fragile spirituality of parents whose children died in the pediatric intensive care unit.

Spiritual care is recognized as a relevant dimension of health care. In the context of pediatric palliative end-of-life care, spirituality entails more than adhering to a spiritual worldview or religion. Interviews with parents whose critically ill child died in the pediatric intensive care unit revealed features of a spirituality that is fragmentary and full of contradictions. This type of spirituality, which we refer to as fragile, speaks of parents' connectedness with the deceased child and the hope of some kind of reuniting after one's own death. Acknowledging that fragments of spirituality can be part of parents' experiences in their child's end-of-life stage can be a meaningful contribution to compassionate care.

The Importance of Parental Connectedness and Relationships With Healthcare Professionals in End-of-Life Care in the PICU.

OBJECTIVES: Support from healthcare professionals in a PICU is highly valuable for parents of dying children. The way they care for the patients and their families affects the parents' initial mourning process. This study explores what interaction with hospital staff is meaningful to parents in existential distress when their child is dying in the PICU. DESIGN: Qualitative interview study. SETTING: Level 3 PICU in the Erasmus University Medical Center-Sophia Children's Hospital, Rotterdam, and the Netherlands. SUBJECTS: Thirty-six parents of 20 children who had died in this unit 5 years previously. INTERVENTIONS: Parents participated in audio-recorded interviews in their own homes. The interviews were transcribed and analyzed using qualitative methods. MEASUREMENTS AND MAIN RESULTS: Parents' narratives of their child's end-of-life stage in the PICU bespeak experiences of estrangement, emotional distancing, and loneliness. Significant moments shared with hospital staff that remained valuable even after 5 years primarily involved personal connectedness, reflected in frequent informational updates, personal commitment of professionals, and interpersonal contact with doctors and nurses. CONCLUSIONS: Parents whose children died in the PICU value personal connectedness to doctors and nurses when coping with existential distress. Medical and nursing training programs should raise awareness of parents' need for contact in all interactions but especially in times of crisis and apprehension.

Parental Physical Proximity in End-of-Life Care in the PICU.

OBJECTIVE: Health professionals in PICUs support both child and parents when a child's death is imminent. Parents long to stay connected to their dying child but the high-tech environment and treatment implications make it difficult to stay physically close. This study explores in what sense physical aspects of end-of-life care in the PICU influence the parent-child relationship. DESIGN: Retrospective, qualitative interview study. SETTING: Level 3 PICU in Erasmus Medical Center in the Netherlands. PARTICIPANTS: Thirty-six parents of 20 children who had died in this unit 5 years previously. MEASUREMENTS AND MAIN RESULTS: Parents vividly remembered the damage done to the child's physical appearance, an inevitable consequence of medical treatment. They felt frustrated and hurt when they could not hold their child. Yet they felt comforted if facilitated to be physically close to the dying child, like lying with the child in one bed, holding the child in the hour of death, and washing the child after death. CONCLUSIONS: End-of-life treatment in the PICU presents both a barrier and an opportunity for parents to stay physically connected to their child. Parents' experiences suggest that aspects of physicality in medical settings deserve more attention. Better understanding of the significance of bodily aspects-other than pain and symptom management-improves end-of-life support and should be part of the humane approach to families.